September 05, 2003
Things My Mate Has Taught Me
It really is amazing how you grow when you are married. I know some would call it change, but I prefer to call it grow- it's a much more positive word. Anyway, I was baking a cake this afternoon- just a few minutes ago - for my little sister's 21st birthday and I started thinking about the things I do differently since I've been married. I started wondering about others of you out there too. It doesn't have to be a growth from marriage necessarily- I think a roommate works the same way- anyone that you are living with that is not part of our maternal/paternal family.
Here is a short list of what I have learned in just 7 short months of marriage from my husband:
1. Use a Dictionary I don't know why I had this silly glitch in my head before- but, subcontiously, I think I used to think that people who used dictionaries were stupid. Now, I look up everything I don't understand. It used to frustrate me. Courtney and I would be talking and I'd say something like: "Hum, I wonder what that's supposed to mean?" and he would say "Let's look it up!" Internally, I'd be thinking - "I didn't really mean that I really want to know- I was just saying that." But now, I really enjoy looking up the meanings of words that I don't fully understand.
2. Follow the Directions! For some reason, I've always had trouble following directions. I don't mean driving directions, instruction from others or things like that. I'm talking about baking directions, sewing directions, setting up a computer, putting together a filing cabinet. Those kinds of directions....until I got married. Courtney always follows the directions- to a T. Shortly after we were married I made a recipe of some sort and I cooked it and it just wasn't the same. I generally did what the recipe said. But, Courtney started asking me some questions. "Well, how long does it say to cook it?" I didn't know- I just thought I would "eye-ball" it. "What size eggs are you supposed to use?" I didn't know- I just use whatever I have in the fridge. It really is amazing- today I actually blended the cake mix on medium for 4 minutes. I've never actually read that much of the directions before!
3. Sunglasses should stay in the car. This makes so much sense to me now. I mean, come on- is the sun really going to blind me from the car to the door of the house? I don't know why I have always insisted on carrying my sunglasses with me - but the result is that I have lost every pair of sunglasses I have ever owned. It really helps that our new car has a place to put the sunglasses now- but even the side pocket would work well.
There are countless other things that I have learned from my wonderful hubby-but, I'm afraid my pride has gotten the better of me and I can't divulge any more about myself at this present moment.
I would, however love to hear about the things you have learned from your spouse/roommate!
Ok, my housemates have taught me so much. Recently--don't get angry when you don't know how to respond. It is OK to walk away and even to talk about it the next day. How'd I learn that? My housemate reacted with his perception of a situation without gathering all the recent facts and he just blasted me. I walked out of the room, 'cause I didn't know what to say. And received a nice note of apology on my pillow the next day.
Actually, I do get blinded by the sun between the car and the house, so I always have my sunglasses with me. I think the blinding has something to do with my contact lenses.
Oh yeah, I learned how to replace the broken shower faucet. That was excellent.
I've taught them to recycle.
Posted by: Jeep at September 5, 2003 11:39 PMYour wonderful HUBBY-BUTT?!
Posted by: jon amos at September 6, 2003 12:29 AMWell, if you've seen Courtney.... :)
Posted by: Lisa at September 6, 2003 03:10 PMEEEWWAH!! T.M.I.!!!
I really can't think of anything, right off the bat, that I do differently. I'm sure there are, but I haven't noticed.
Oh, I hit the alarm clock five times before I get up, I never use to do that.
There goes Jon bringing up the rear again. :)
Posted by: Robbie at September 9, 2003 04:30 PMYou are married to a good man, Lisa. Doubt it not. I'll bet that he's learning more from you than you'd be willing to admit, too.
Posted by: SonofThunder at September 10, 2003 02:53 PMLisa, as far as not following directions, I think that this is a Rockett trait.
When we don't know the next step of the cooking directions, game, ect. we either guess or in the matter of games, we just make up a new rule.
Our decision, of course, totaly makes sence and how dare you disagree!
Yes, this is definantly a Rockett trait.